On this episode of Straight Up With Stassi, Stassi and Vanderpump Rules’ cast member/bestie Katie Maloney cover everything from body image to intuition. And also, Game of Thrones. All while drinking margaritas.
“This is how every woman feels.”
“It’s impossible to compare ourselves to biology, to science, to how things are when you’re that age vs. now,” Katie says. “Our bodies are getting closer to the age where we’re supposed to bear children. That is nature. Our bodies are supposed to change, and they will keep changing. I spent a lot of time getting down on myself, especially in the last year, about some weight gain and it led to other problems. It was toxic to other areas of my life, so I had to reel it back in. I have to be happy with my body. I can do whatever I am physically capable of in trying to change it, but my body is designed to change, and I am getting older. I feel like I keep denying the fact that I’m getting older. And that is sort of the kryptonite.”
“Do you really feel like you’re denying getting older?” Stasi asks. “I don’t feel like you are, and you’re not somebody that I would ever say is obsessed with age.”
“I don’t obsess over it. If anything, when I turned 30 I was stoked because 30 is sexy as fuck,” Katie says. “You’re a woman, people take you more seriously, I feel more comfortable in my skin. I embrace it more, the womanhood and everything that comes with it. But I 100% have insecurities and it’s up to me to handle those in a way that keeps me healthy in the way I perceive myself.”
“I get that,” Stassi agrees. “But, I’m looking at you, and we’re sitting here in my room and I’m like, we sound fucking crazy.”
“No we don’t, because this is how every woman feels,” Katie says.
“I feel like we could have it so much harder,” Stassi says. “Even the skinniest, most stunning girl feels this way. I don’t think I’ve ever met someone that just feels like, ‘Yeah, I’m hot as shit. And I can just walk around naked and not give a fuck.’ I mean maybe I’ve met a couple, but…”
“Everyone is gonna have their own issues with their body,” Katie says. “Everyone’s going to be critical of themselves, for sure. My body is my body and it’s going to do it’s thing, regardless. I can watch what I eat and go work out and that’s how I can maintain. There are some people who cannot physically gain weight, and they have insecurities about that. It’s so common for people to just not be happy with their body and the way it is, especially when you’re used to looking a certain way and then all of the sudden you feel like you don’t. We’re so much in our heads about it. That’s why I don’t put myself on a scale.”
“Oh I don’t do that either,” Stassi says. “Whenever I go over to someone’s house and I see there’s a scale in their bathroom, I’m like ‘What the fuck is wrong with you, you serial killer?’”
“There will be a little light or switch that turns on.”
“I think you see things differently,” Stassi says of Katie’s intuition.
“I see things differently because I feel like I’ve learned something in a past life,” Katie explains. “It’s like, ‘I’ve been here.’ And my intuition is very strong about how to handle a certain situation or how I should go about things.”
“It’s such a weird thing for me to hear you talk about, because I don’t feel like that about anything,” Stassi says. “I’ve never once felt like I’ve been here before, I’ve never once felt like I know when to trust my intuition.”
“But your intuition is there,” Katie says. “You never get a gut instinct?”
“If I feel in danger, yes,” Stassi says. “But also I feel like I could be way wrong about that. Because intuition is something that you can’t fully define and explain, it could be a culmination of how you were raised, and what you were exposed to, or it could just be what’s already within you. Because there’s no proof of anything, I’m like, ‘Well is my intuition because of an experience I had when I was a kid?’ I don’t trust it because there’s so much that goes into it.”
“The first thing when something happens that speaks to any of us, whether you choose to listen, is your intuition and your instinct,” Katie explains. “There will be a little light or switch that turns on.”
“I had a gut feeling — I’m just using this as an example, sorry Kristen, I love you so much — this is the only example I can use right now. When Kristen hooked up with Jax years ago, my gut told me, ‘I am right. I sense she’s lying. I know it.’ But I think I’m so black and white as a person, you’re either bad or good, that I struggle with the intuition aspect of it,” Stassi says. “Just because my intuition was like, ‘This person is lying, she did this, don’t trust it,’ she ultimately is still one of my best friends and we love her like she’s our sister. So then I wonder, what was my gut and my intuition telling me? That’s where I get confused.”
“If your gut is telling you straight off the bat ‘yes,’ then, trust that,” Katie says. “It doesn’t mean that you can’t leave room for human error or benefit of the doubt, but just know what your gut is telling you. That doesn’t mean that you can’t pursue that and give someone the benefit of the doubt and see it through, but you know when you know. You want to be able to be compassionate and sensitive towards that person. But you don’t have to ignore it. It’s finding that middle ground where you can always keep in the back of your mind that you know, but you want to give this person a chance. And if after that your intuition is still telling you otherwise, then you have your answer. It just takes practice. It’s like a relationship.”