On this episode of Straight Up With Stassi, her OG best friend Kristina Kelly joins to talk about burgers, babies, and Beau.
“I’m really insecure about some things right now,” Stassi says. “I’m really insecure about being in a relationship.”
“The b word. Beau. Boyfriend,” Kristina says.
“The beaufriend,” Stassi laughs.
“Did you just make that up?” Kristina asks.
“No,” Stassi answers.
“That would have been so good,” Kristina says. “When did you make that up?”
“I didn’t make that up,” Stassi says. “Other people said it to me. I can’t take credit for that.”
“So you’re insecure about the beaufriend,” Kristina backtracks.
“Yes, because I’m so used to being the quintessential single girl who third-wheels all the time, who’s always available to do things, go on trips, say yes to everything,” Stassi explains. “Even when I was with Patrick, I was still always alone and available to do those things. So now that I don’t want to do those things anymore and I just want to be around my beaufriend…” Stassi laughs. “I’m like, ‘Oh my god, am I going to be really annoying and start talking about how he can hang something in under seven minutes?’ You probably don’t even understand that reference.”
“What can he hang?” Kristina asks, not following.
“I’m just scared of being that person that can only talk about her significant other all the time, in an annoying way,” Stassi says. “Do you know what I mean? You’ve been in a relationship for eight years so I respect your opinion more than most.”
“I just think that you’re in love,” Kristina says. “That’s what normal people do when they’re in love. Why are you fighting it?”
“I’m not fighting the feeling of being in love. I fully embraced that. That’s great,” Stassi says. “When I catch up with people, I just don’t want the only thing that I’m capable of talking about to be my relationship, like I have nothing else going on in my life. I’ve never been like this before. I’ve never been in a relationship where I want to just talk about that person 24/7. I haven’t. I’m finally in that position, and I finally feel that way, and I just don’t want to annoy people.”
“But I look at it as, like, you deserve this, and it makes me so happy that you’re happy,” Kristina says. “I want to hear all about it. I want to hear every detail. I want to hear about every cute thing he says. But then again, I’m slightly obsessed with Beau, so there’s that. I like him so much for you, so I want to hear all the good things. And I’ve been in an eight year relationship with somebody who reminds me a lot of Beau, like the things that he says and how sweet he is and how goofy. So it makes me happy.”
“‘Finally.’ That’s what I think. ‘Finally.’ Not, ‘Oh my god, she’s so happy,’” Kristina continues. “But maybe if you got lunch with somebody who’s not happy, or is single, they’d be like, ‘I want to shoot myself, why don’t I have that?’ If anything, I’m thinking, ‘Finally, you have what I have.’ And you deserve that. You’ve been through a lot of boyfriends and I’ve seen you through them all, and I’ve been waiting for you to find your Max, or your Beau. It’s just… I love it. I’m so happy. He’s the perfect match for you. If I could have created a person for you, it’s him. It’s insane. I know it’s new, but I just…”
“I know, and I don’t even feel scared saying that,” Stassi says.
“And I knew. I’ve been in a long relationship, and I knew. I knew. You know. When you meet somebody, as you start dating them, you know when you’re like, ‘Yeah, you just get me. This is right. This all feels right.’ And any past relationship you’ve had, you feel like, ‘Oh, so this is what it’s actually about.’”
“That’s really how I feel,” Stassi agrees. “And I know most people can relate to this. Technically, when you think about it, any relationship you get into is always going to be better than the other ones. You always think that way. You always think, ‘Oh, well it’s different this time.’ But this feels, like, way, way different. This doesn’t feel like the typical, ‘Oh my god, this is so much better now.’ It’s like, no, I just couldn’t imagine it being an easier relationship or a better relationship. I’ve thought back now on all my relationships, and it kind of blows my mind that I’ve spent 29 years not knowing what this was like. It’s not that any of my ex-boyfriends were bad people or anything…”
“Eh, we don’t have to talk about that,” Kristina laughs.
“Patrick is not a bad guy at all, it’s just that me and Patrick together, our personalities together, didn’t fit, and I just didn’t know that. I just assumed that everyone fights all the time, that everyone has to walk on eggshells,” Stassi explains.
“That was normal to you,” Kristina says.
“Yes,” Stassi confirms. “So this is all very new to me.”
“Dating in LA is really hard, I’ve watched all my friends go through the struggle, so I say when you find a gem like Beau you hold on tight and forever make it work,” Kristina says. “I think that’s basically what I did with my boyfriend. If you’re right for each other… You guys… I just can’t describe it.”
“Oh my gosh, does this mean that my tarot card reader is right and I’m going to have boys in two years?” Stassi asks. “I’m not ready for children.”
“You’re not?” Kristina asks.
“I want children, eventually,” Stassi explains. “In my life, I want that. I would be very happy being an older mom. But right now, I love traveling, I love shopping, I love being hungover when I want to be, and not having to get up and take care of a baby. It’s hard enough when I’m hungover to take care of two dogs.”